THE ELDEST DAUGHTER EFFECT: HOW FIRSTBORN WOMEN--LIKE OPRAH WINFREY, SHERYL SANDBERG, JK ROWLING AND BEYONCE--HARNESS THEIR STRENGTHS
Book ID/图书代码： 12787016B92433
English Summary/英文概要： "What do Angela Merkel, Hillary Rodham Clinton, Christine Lagarde, Oprah Winfrey, Sheryl Sandberg, JK Rowling and Beyonce have in common?" was the headline in the English newspaper The Observer in 2014. "Other than riding high in Forbes list of the world s most powerful women," journalist Tracy McVeigh wrote in answer to her own question, "they are also all firstborn children in their families. Firstborn children really do excel."
So what does it mean to be an eldest daughter?
Firstborns Lisette Schuitemaker and Wies Enthoven set out to discover the big five qualities that characterize all eldest daughters to some degree. Eldest daughters are responsible, dutiful, thoughtful, expeditious and caring. Firstborns are more intelligent than their siblings, more proficient verbally and more motivated to perform. Yet at the same time they seriously doubt that they are good enough.
Being an eldest daughter can have certain advantages, but the overbearing sense of responsibility often gets in the way. Parents may worry about their difficult eldest girl who wants to be perfect in everything she does whilst her siblings may not always understand her.
"The Eldest Daughter Effect" shows how firstborn girls become who they are and offers insights that can give them more freedom to move. Parents with a firstborn daughter will gather invaluable tips on how to raise their eldest daughter and her siblings. "
Chinese Summary/中文概要： “默克尔、希拉里、拉加德、奥普拉、JK罗玲、碧昂斯这些人都有什么共同点？”——这是2014年《观察家报》刊登的一篇文章的标题。文中，记者Tracy McVeigh指出：“除了她们都入选了《福布斯》全球最具影响力女性榜单，她们还都是家里的长女。长女确实会表现出色。”如此说来，成为长女究竟意味着什么呢？
长女Lisette Schuitemaker和Wies Enthoven研究了长女的五大特征——负责、孝顺、细致、敏捷、体贴。长女还比其他弟弟妹妹更加聪明、高效、有执行力。但同时，她们也会严重怀疑自己是否还不够优秀。
作为家中长女，确实拥有不少优势，但过多的责任感也会阻碍她们的发展。长女会希望自己在各方面都表现完美，这一点会另父母感到担心，而同时，其他弟弟妹妹也可能无法理解她。
本书向读者展现了长女的成长历程，并提供了深刻的见解，帮助她们更加自由地前行。家中有长女的父母定能从本书中获得众多有关如何养育长女和其他孩子的宝贵建议。（LYR）
Awards/获奖情况："I am an author, writing coach and publisher, and an eldest daughter; my business partner is the youngest brother of three sisters. After reading The Eldest Daughter Effect I understood exactly how our relationship worked, its positives and negatives. I was amazed to find what a typical eldest daughter I am, and that so much of my attitudes and behaviour are coloured by this factor. The book has led me to have endless, fascinating conversations with others I can now easily identify as eldest daughters -- and I will be recommending it to all of them. If you are an eldest daughter, you MUST read this book!" ― Lucy McCarraher, author and managing editor, Rethink Press
"Like looking at a reflection in the mirror--shrewdly discerning and comically accurate. This book uncovers the mysteries of why we eldest daughters are who we are. Valuable for those seeking insight into the eldest daughters in their lives. Even better for eldest daughters trying to understand their own profound sense of responsibility, expeditiousness, and perfectionism." ― Holly Ruhl, Ph.D. Early Childhood Psychologist
"The Eldest Daughter Effect is a page turner. I couldn’ t put it down and raced through it in one go!! Now I want to share the book with all my good friends - who of course are eldest daughters themselves - my walking buddy, my step daughter and many professional colleagues. The five qualities of Eldest Daughters (responsible, dedicated, expeditious, thoughtful, caring) even emerged as key descriptors of me in the systemic constellation inquiries I have done with my community of practice - so I affirm these research discoveries. I am indebted to Lisette and Wies for their insights, so beautifully captured in lively vignettes and flowing prose that offer a truly rewarding read. Brava!!!!" ― Marilyn Hamilton, Eldest Daughter; Author of Integral City
"Using the Grounded Theory research method, these authors set out to discover whatever they could about first born women. They ended up with five common traits (responsible, dutiful, hands on, thoughtful, and caring) shared by eldest daughters. Both eldest daughters themselves, they found that the insight gained from their discoveries was extremely helpful. They are sharing the paradigm which they developed from their research with readers, hoping that the information will prove useful to them as well. More than just broad strokes, Schuitemaker and Enthoven get down to the nitty gritty, covering topics like the ’Functional Eldest Daughter’, the first four years, the danger of wanting to be perfect, unrealistically high expectations of the first born, effects of undivided attention, why eldest daughters tend to be smarter, ’Dethronement’, ’Impostor Syndrome’, the undervalued role of the father, and the inseparable connection to those the eldest grew up with. I am an eldest daughter and I found this book to be both enlightening and liberating. Written as much for siblings of the eldest as for the eldest themselves, this is a highly detailed analysis of this particular family dynamic. It offers exercises so the reader can self-evaluate in order to apply the information to themselves. Clearly written and relevant, it’s a valuable resource for parents as well as adult eldest daughters and their confused siblings." ― Anna Jedrziewski, Retailing Insight
About the Author/作者介绍： Lisette Schuitemaker，长期以来都在观察自己与其他家中长女的区别。曾将在通信行业工作，后获得布伦南治疗科学本科学位，并从事生活教练工作，现在结合自身的心理学及写作背景从事自助类图书的写作。
Wies Enthoven，作家、记者、教师。专注于聆听人们的讲述：他们如何看待自己？他们的人生故事是什么？作为家中的长女，她发现长女存在众多相似之处。
Lisette Schuitemaker has long observed similarities between herself and other eldest daughters. After a career in communications, she obtained a BSc in Brennan Healing Science, ran a private practice as a life-coach and now combines her psychological and writing experience to write self-help books.
Wies Enthoven is a writer, journalist and teacher. Her focus is always on the narrative people tell her. How do they look at themselves? What is their life story? Being an eldest daughter, she discovered how much women in this position have in common.
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