GROWING EACH OTHER UP: WHEN OUR CHILDREN BECOME OUR TEACHERS

Book ID/图书代码： 13560016B93109

English Summary/英文概要： From growing their children, parents grow themselves, learning the lessons their children teach. “Growing up”, then, is as much a developmental process of parenthood as it is of childhood. While countless books have been written about the challenges of parenting, nearly all of them position the parent as instructor and support-giver, the child as learner and in need of direction. But the parent-child relationship is more complicated and reciprocal; over time it transforms in remarkable, surprising ways. As our children grow up, and we grow older, what used to be a one-way flow of instruction and support, from parent to child, becomes instead an exchange. We begin to learn from them. The lessons parents learn from their offspring—voluntarily and involuntarily, with intention and serendipity, often through resistance and struggle—are embedded in their evolving relationships and shaped by the rapidly transforming world around them.

With Growing Each Other Up, Macarthur Prize–winning sociologist and educator Sara Lawrence-Lightfoot offers an intimately detailed, emotionally powerful account of that experience. Building her book on a series of in-depth interviews with parents around the country, she offers a counterpoint to the usual parental development literature that mostly concerns the adjustment of parents to their babies’ rhythms and the ways parents weather the storms of their teenage progeny. The focus here is on the lessons emerging adult children, ages 15 to 35, teach their parents. How are our perspectives as parents shaped by our children? What lessons do we take from them and incorporate into our worldviews? Just how much do we learn—often despite our own emotionally fraught resistance—from what they have seen of life that we, perhaps, never experienced? From these parent portraits emerges the shape of an education composed by young adult children—an education built on witness, growing, intimacy, and acceptance.

Growing Each Other Up is rich in the voices of actual parents telling their own stories of raising children and their children raising them; watching that fundamental connection shift over time. Parents and children of all ages will recognize themselves in these evocative and moving accounts and look at their own growing up in a revelatory new light.

Chinese Summary/中文概要： 在养育孩子的过程中，父母往往也会从孩子那里学到东西。所谓“成长”，其实是父母和孩子一同发展的过程。有很多书关于父母养育孩子时面临的挑战，但它们都将父母定位为指导者和帮助者，孩子相对的是学习者和需要指导的一方。但亲子关系还更复杂一些。随着时间推移，当孩子逐渐长大，父母慢慢变老，原本父母对孩子单方向的指导和帮助会发生变化。我们开始从孩子那里学得新事物，有些是自愿的，有些不那么情愿，但过程中往往伴有抵抗和挣扎，这都与孩子们和世界越来越近并紧随了世界不断改变的步伐。

本书中，赢得Macarthur奖的社会学家和教育家Sara Lawrence-Lightfoot提供了大量详尽、有力的例子。本书建立在她长期深入与全美各地家长访谈的结果之上，并参考了与育儿相关的大量文献，其中大部分都只关注家长如何应对婴儿期的孩子和叛逆期的青少年。但本书的关注点是更大一些的孩子，大约是15岁到35岁，开始反过来教导家长。作为父母，我们的想法会如何改变？我们会从他们身上学到什么，这些知识如何融入我们自己的世界观？尽管有抵触，我们究竟可以从他们身上看到多少我们从未经历和体验过的世事？本书由父母亲身讲述他们自己与成长的孩子之间的故事，从中能够观察到亲子关系随着时间推移的不断变化。父母和各种年龄的孩子都能够从书中看到自己的影子，并对互相成长的关系有新的见解。（LYR）

Awards/获奖情况：很少有一本书能够通过一个熟悉的话题给人以震撼的感受。感谢Sara Lawrence Lightfoot的这本书，让我大开眼界。面对我的四个孩子和四个孙辈，我的想法再也不会和以前一样了。（Howard Gardner，哈佛大学研究生教育学院）

“Only rarely does a book on a familiar topic shake your most fundamental assumptions. Thanks to Sara Lawrence Lightfoot’s eye-opening book, I will never think in the same old way about my relation to my four children and my four grandchildren.”(Howard Gardner, Harvard Graduate School of Education)

“In a beautifully written book, full of insights from the author and the people she interviews, Sara Lawrence-Lightfoot teaches us how important it is for parents to be open to learning from their children. She teaches us that when we open our mouths to speak, we should be sure that our ears, our minds, and our hearts are open too. This may be the key to being a successful parent, and also to being a successful teacher, doctor, or supervisor.” (Barry Schwartz, author of The Paradox of Choice: Why More is Less)

About the Author/作者介绍： Sara Lawrence-Lightfoot已著有十一部书籍，其中包括最近的《Exit: The Endings That Set Us Free》。她是哈佛大学教育学院教授。

Sara Lawrence-Lightfoot is the author of eleven books, including, most recently, Exit: The Endings That Set Us Free. She is the Emily Hargroves Fisher Professor of Education at Harvard University.

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