KID CONFIDENCE: HELP YOUR CHILD MAKE FRIENDS, BUILD RESILIENCE, AND DEVELOP REAL SELF-ESTEEM
Book ID/图书代码： 09700018C00020
English Summary/英文概要： As a parent, it’s heartbreaking to hear your child say negative things about themselves. But as children grow older and begin thinking about the world in more complex ways, they also become more self-critical. Alarmingly, studies show that self-esteem peaks during the preschool years, only to take a sharp nosedive as children head into their
teens. So, how can you turn the tide on this upsetting trend and help your child build genuine self-esteem?
With this guide, you’ll learn that self-esteem isn’t about telling kids they’re "special." It’s about helping them embrace the freedom that comes with a quiet ego--a way of being in the world that isn’t preoccupied with self-judgment, and instead embraces a compassionate view of oneself and others that allows for both present awareness and personal growth. When kids are less focused on evaluating and comparing themselves with others, they are freer to empathize with others, embrace learning, and connect with the values that are bigger than themselves.
You’ll also discover how your child’s fundamental needs for connection, competence, and choice are essential for self-esteem. Connection involves building meaningful and satisfying relationships that create a sense of belonging. Competence means building tangible skills. And choice is about being able to make decisions, figure out what matters, and choose to act in ways that are consistent with personal values. When children are able to fulfill these three basic needs, the question of "Am I good enough?" is less likely to come up.
If your child is suffering from low self-esteem, you need a nuanced parenting approach. Let this book guide you as you help your child create unshakeable confidence and lasting well-being.
Chinese Summary/中文概要： 作为父母，听到你的孩子说自己的坏话是令人心碎的。但是随着孩子们长大，开始用更复杂的方式思考这个世界，他们也变得更加自我批判。令人担忧的是，研究表明，自尊心在学前阶段达到顶峰，但当孩子们步入青春期时，自尊心却急剧下降。那么，你怎样才能扭转这种令人不安的趋势，帮助你的孩子建立真正的自尊呢?
有了这个指南，你会学到自尊不是告诉孩子他们是“特别的”。它是关于帮助他们拥抱一个安静的自我所带来的自由——一种在这个世界上不专注于自我判断的一种方式，而是拥抱对自己和他人的一种富有同情心的观点，这种观点既允许当前的意识，也允许个人的成长。当孩子们不太关注与他人的评价和比较时，他们就会更自由地与他人产生共鸣，接受学习，并与比自己更伟大的价值观产生联系。
你也会发现你的孩子对联系、能力和选择的基本需求对自尊是多么的重要。联系包括建立有意义和令人满意的关系，创造归属感。能力意味着建立有形的技能。选择就是能够做出决定，弄清楚什么是重要的，并选择以符合个人价值观的方式行动。当孩子们能够满足这三个基本需求时，“我够好吗?”这个问题就不太可能出现了。
如果你的孩子自尊心不强，你需要一个细致入微的育儿方法。让这本书引导你帮助你的孩子建立不可动摇的信心和持久的幸福。（WYL）
Awards/获奖情况："In her warm, accessible style, Eileen Kennedy-Moore has turned conventional thinking about self-esteem on its head. Speaking directly to parents, and to anyone who works with or cares about children, Kid Confidence makes a compelling argument for turning away from frantic attempts to pump up our children’s self-esteem. Instead, Kennedy-Moore lays out a plan to address the need for connection, competence, and choice--three critical factors at the heart of a ?quiet ego.’ It is possible to dive into any one chapter and emerge armed with practical suggestions. Better yet, read the whole book. This one is a game-changer."
--Dawn Huebner, PhD, psychologist, parent coach, and author of Outsmarting Worry--Dawn Huebner, PhD
"Kid Confidence is packed with surprising and realistic advice about how we can help kids stop worrying about if they are good enough. In her uniquely wonderful way, Kennedy-Moore also gives us the confidence to handle any parenting challenge."
--Diane Debrovner, deputy editor at Parents magazine--Diane Debrovner
"The best parenting resource I have seen in several years. Too many children and teens suffer from a negative inward focus on themselves that is self-critical and self-judgmental. Outwardly, they may seem anxious or depressed, worried or discouraged. Child and family psychologist Eileen Kennedy-Moore shows parents the road to helping children develop real self-esteem and ?a quiet ego’ through connection, competence, and choice. The book is firmly evidence-based, developmentally based, practically based, and it is fundamentally wise and compassionate."
--Carol D. Goodheart, EdD, former president of the American Psychological Association--Carol D. Goodheart, EdD
"Not just another parenting book! Eileen Kennedy-Moore relies on solid research to reveal why much of what we’ve been taught about raising self-confident children is actually counterproductive. Kid Confidence offers a wealth of wisdom and practical strategies aimed at helping parents succeed at instilling their children with authentic self-esteem through reducing self-focus and harsh self-judgment."
--Mary K. Alvord, PhD, psychologist, and coauthor of Conquer Negative Thinking for Teens and Resilience Builder Program for Children and Adolescents--Mary K. Alvord, PhD
"An exciting alternative to most books about self-esteem. Eileen Kennedy-Moore helps parents boost their child’s skills in the critical areas of making friends, making choices, and mastering the ups and downs of the learning process.;Every parent, grandparent, and school counselor can benefit from the specific tips and guidance in this book. Wise, compassionate, and grounded in the latest research, Kid Confidence delivers on its promise to help children develop authentic confidence."
--Meg Selig, NCC, a retired counselor, and author of Changepower!--Meg Selig, NCC
About the Author/作者介绍： 艾琳•肯尼迪-摩尔博士是新泽西州普林斯顿的一名临床心理学家，也是四个孩子的母亲。作为一名值得信赖的儿童情感和友谊方面的专家，肯尼迪-摩尔是伟大课程的教授，为《家长杂志》、《今日心理学》、《美国公共电视台父母》栏目和《美国新闻与世界报道》撰写博客。这是她的第六本书。更多信息请访问www.eileenkennedymoore.com或www.drfriendtastic.com。
Eileen Kennedy-Moore, PhD, is a clinical psychologist based in Princeton, NJ, and a mom of four. A trusted expert on children’s feelings and friendships, Kennedy-Moore is a professor for The Great Courses, serves on the advisory board for Parents magazine, and blogs for Psychology Today, PBS Parents, and US News & World Report. This is her sixth book. Learn more at www.eileenkennedymoore.com or www.drfriendtastic.com.
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