BOUNCING BACK FROM REJECTION: BUILD THE RESILIENCE YOU NEED TO GET BACK UP WHEN LIFE KNOCKS YOU DOWN

Book ID/图书代码： 09700019C00035

English Summary/英文概要： Do you have a fear of rejection? If so, you aren’t alone. But if you have difficulty bouncing back after rejection, experience intense pain as a result, or if the fear of rejection is so crippling that it interferes with your everyday life, it’s time to make a change. This groundbreaking guide can help.

With this book, you’ll learn why you fear rejection by gaining an understanding of your unique attachment style. Secure attachment is defined as a feeling of being protected and well-cared for. People who experience secure attachment as young children are more likely to be happy, healthy, and resilient adults. On the other hand, insecurely attached people are less likely to cope well with rejection, and may have trouble "bouncing back" after difficult experiences. Once you understand how your attachment style has informed your fears, you can begin the work needed to overcome them!

Using the theory of attachment, and the five domains of awareness: Sensations, Thoughts, Emotions, Actions, and Mentalizing (STEAM), you’ll learn to relate to yourself and to others in more positive ways, even when difficult situations arise. So, whether you experience rejection in a romantic relationship, at work, or with friends, you’ll have the resilience needed to recover quickly and focus on what makes you special and unique.

This isn’t a book that promises to protect you from future rejection. Unfortunately, rejection happens to everyone and is a normal part of life. But you will learn skills to handle this rejection and come to see it as less scary. With this view, you’ll gain confidence, self-awareness, and the resilience needed to bounce back, even when life throws you a curveball.

Chinese Summary/中文概要： 你害怕被拒绝吗?如果是这样，你并不孤单。但是，如果你在被拒绝后很难恢复，并因此经历了强烈的痛苦，或者如果对被拒绝的恐惧严重到干扰了你的日常生活，那么是时候做出改变了。这个开创性的指南会有所帮助。

有了这本书，你将通过了解你独特的依恋类型来学习为什么你害怕被拒绝。安全依恋被定义为一种被保护和被照顾的感觉。小时候经历过安全依恋的人更有可能成为快乐、健康、适应力强的成年人。另一方面，没有安全感的人不太可能很好地应对拒绝，而且在经历了困难的经历后可能很难“恢复”。一旦你理解了你的依恋类型是如何影响你的恐惧，你就可以开始克服它们的工作了!

运用依恋理论和五种意识领域:感觉、思想、情感、行动和心智化，你将学会以更积极的方式与自己和他人建立联系，即使是在困难的情况下。所以，无论你在恋爱关系中、工作中或与朋友交往中遭到拒绝，你都有足够的恢复力来迅速恢复，并专注于自己的特别之处。

这本书并不能保证你以后不会被拒绝。不幸的是，每个人都会遭遇拒绝，这是生活中很正常的一部分。但你会学会处理这种拒绝的技巧，并逐渐觉得它不那么可怕。有了这个观点，你就会获得自信、自我意识和反弹所需的弹性，即使生活给你一个难题。（WYL）

Awards/获奖情况：“当我们被拒绝时，我们都会受到伤害。但对一些人来说，这种经历太让人崩溃了，不知道如何才能东山再起。在这本写得很好的、精心制作的书中，莱斯利·贝克尔-菲尔普斯邀请读者踏上一段心理和社会之旅，在这段旅程中，拒绝和对拒绝的恐惧可以照亮我们如何与自己的经历联系起来。所有这一切——包括我们的感觉、思想、情感、行动，以及我们自己和他人的心智化。通过学习采取一种自我同情的方式来体验，读者将逐步学会如何将拒绝转化为更大的依恋和联系——与他人和更深层的自我。”——史蒂芬·海斯，博士，内华达大学雷诺分校心理学系基金会教授，《接受与承诺疗法(ACT)》的合作者，《解放思想》的作者

"All of us hurt when we are rejected. But for some, this experience is so crushing that it is not clear how to ever bounce back. In this well-written and carefully crafted book, Leslie Becker-Phelps invites readers on a psychological and social journey in which rejection and fear of rejection are allowed to shine a light on how we relate to our own experience. All of it--including our sensations, thoughts, emotions, actions, and the mentalization of ourselves and others. By learning to take a self-compassionate approach to experience, the reader is shown in a step-by-step way how to turn rejection into greater attachment and connection--with others and with your deeper self." --Steven C. Hayes, PhD, Foundation Professor in the department of psychology at the University of Nevada, Reno; codeveloper of acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT); and author of A Liberated Mind--Steven C. Hayes, PhD

About the Author/作者介绍： 莱斯利·贝克尔 - 菲尔普斯，心理学博士，颇具威望的心理学家，作家，和演讲家。她为《网络医生》写《关系艺术》的博客，也写《为当今心理学做出点改变》的相关博客。莱斯利·贝克尔 - 菲尔普斯曾任职于新泽西州的萨默塞特医疗中心，是女性心理咨询服务的主任。莱斯利目前与丈夫和两个儿子住在新泽西州。详情请见： www.drbecker-phelps.com.

Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD, is a licensed psychologist, author, and speaker. She writes The Art of Relationships blog for WebMD and is the relationship expert for WebMD’s relationships and coping community. She also writes the blog Making Change for Psychology Today. Becker-Phelps previously served at Somerset Medical Center in Somerville, NJ, as director of women’s psychological services and chief of psychology in the department of psychiatry. She lives with her husband and two sons in Basking Ridge, NJ. Find out more about her at www.drbecker-phelps.com.

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