ICH STEHE NICHT MEHR ZUR VERFUGUNG (I AM NOT AT YOUR DISPOSAL ANY MORE)
Book ID/图书代码： 11928007B16148
English Summary/英文概要： Through many practical examples from typical everyday situations Olaf Jacobson exposes why and in what manner you habitually react to outside input, most often to our own disadvantage. He then goes on to demonstrate how you can learn to discern our own feelings from those that are put on us by the people with whom you interact. The moment you gain clarity regarding the reasons why of our own feelings you won’t be walked over any longer or take on any emotions that others may be in the process of dumping on us. Instead, you can leave for good these same emotions where they came from, namely with the other party.
The author gives much matter-of-fact advice on how to liberate oneself from any oppressive feeling that tend to make everyone feel uncomfortable or even powerless with regard to certain circumstances in their marriage and family life, or in their career. His methods are based on and were developed from the line-up and systems concepts as used in classical family therapy. Olaf Jacobson has studied classical music and completed his training as a conductor and opera singer. Later he developed what he refers to as Free System’s Line-Up. He is a personality coach and seminar leader. He focuses mainly on helping his clients to become aware of and thereby shedding the so-called “substitution effect”.
Chinese Summary/中文概要： 深獲歐洲六國讀者信賴的心靈大師，幫你驅逐內在世界那個敏感脆弱的自我之後
無論在日常生活中，在工作中，在婚姻中，在其他家庭關係中，一個始終缺乏自信、對他人的言語又容易敏感的人，非常容易陷入一種負面的情緒當中，那就是認為別人都在批評他，認為他這裡做不好，那裡也做不好。如此一來，原本就已經缺乏自信的人，更加容易錯把虛假的情境當真，誤以為自己真的如此糟糕透頂，進而認定他人對自己的忽視及擺布都是理所當然的行為反應。當我們長久以往不斷受內在這種不健康的心魔掌控時，將漸漸從對自己的不滿，演變成對周遭一切人事物都感到不滿，於是，整個人生就開始走調了。我們所要做的，首先就是挣開這個自以為真實的虛假身分，下定決心力圖改變，才有可能不再被他人忽視。唯有如此，原本許多生理與心理的負面情緒，也才會自然而然地消失遁形。
作者奧拉夫•亞克布森在本書中，儘量採取日常情景作為實例，從中抽離出我們慣常對外在環境與人事物所產生的弱勢反應，幫助我們學習面對情緒，理清頭緒，不再受外境干擾。只要下定決心，掌握了要領，原本隱藏在內心那種始終害怕被嫌棄、被拋棄的脆弱自我，將開始蛻變與成長。
作者也針對婚姻問題、家庭生活及職場生涯方面的問題，提出許多實際有效的建議，指導我們擺脫倍受壓迫、進而感到痛苦及無力改變的情緒。他的方法源自於典型心理治療中有關家庭治療的精髓部分，進而發展成一個自然療癒的訓練方法。作者為此還特意學了古典音樂，並同時接受了指揮家與歌者兩種資格認證的訓練。爾後他還發展了所謂的「自我建全療癒系統」（Free System’s Line-Up）。他的專門領域在於人格訓練，他同時也是各類心理治療研討會的領導者。他主要致力於幫助有這類問題的人追根溯源，找出成因，擺脫內心那種畏懼「被取代」的障礙。(兼职翻译-XJJ & Mathilde)
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About the Author/作者介绍： Best-selling author Olaf Jacobson has studied classical music and completed his training as a conductor and singer. Later he developed what he refers to as Free Constellation Work. He is a personality coach and seminar leader focusing mainly on helping his clients to become aware of and thereby shedding the socalled “substitution effect.”
His first book I Am not at Your Disposal Any More has sold more than 120,000 copies in 28 months and has been translated into 6 languages so far.
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