THE COURAGE TO BE A STEPMOM: FINDING YOUR PLACE WITHOUT LOSING YOURSELF

Book ID/图书代码： 12610007B19222

English Summary/英文概要： A stepmother constantly sees to others’ needs — those of her spouse, her kids, his kids, their kids. She also has to work so hard to maintain her marriage or deal with the emotional turmoil that can follow divorce and marrying again, that she may neglect her own needs. It’s no wonder, then, that stepmothers often ask: Who’s taking care of me?
This is where Sue Patton Thoele steps in, offering practical advice and emotional support in a new edition of her book, The Courage to Be a Stepmom. Much has been written about the nuts and bolts of stepmothering — dealing with a hostile ex-wife, learning to discipline effectively — but this book is the first to focus on the stepmother’s characteristic emotional and spiritual needs.
Stepmothers are often expected to care for their stepchildren as a parent would, yet their efforts frequently go unappreciated and are sometimes met with hostility. Also, they are often targets of misplaced anger or are reminded that they are not the "real mother." Amid such stresses, marriages fray and sometimes fall apart. But according to Ms. Thoele, with the proper skills, women can learn to navigate the pitfalls, get the most from relationships, and meet their own needs.
Thoele’s book addresses stepmothers’ commonly felt emotions — guilt, shame, grief, frustration, and fear — and offers hands-on advice for acknowledging and dealing with them. A practical handbook and comforting friend, this book should be read by every woman who finds herself in the stepmother’s role.

Chinese Summary/中文概要： 一个继母总是常常看到别人的需求――配偶的需求，女方孩子的需求，男方孩子需求，以及他们孩子的需求。她往往不得不非常努力的维护这一段婚姻，应付各种感情上的考验，生怕这些考验会导致离婚，再婚。因此她常常会忽视自己的需求。难怪，继母们总是自问：谁来照顾我呢？ 这就是作者苏 帕顿 苏艾尔关注的地方，在这本新书中，为继母们提供可操作的意见和精神支持。多不胜数的书都介绍过做一个继母可能遇到的各种细节问题――如何应对充满敌意的前妻，学会怎样有效的持家――但本书是第一部关注继母们情感和精神需求的书。 人们常常希望继母们能像个母亲一样好好照顾继子，然而她们的努力又常常被忽略，有时还会遇到敌对情绪。而且，她们也经常是怨气的出气筒，或经常被提醒“不是我们的亲生妈妈”。正是在这种压力之下，婚姻变得脆弱，甚至破裂。但是，根据苏艾尔女士的说法，有了正确的技巧，女人其实可以驾驭各种小陷阱，从各种关系中获益，并满足每人各自的需求。
苏艾尔的这本书着重描写了继母们所共有的各种情感――罪恶，羞愧，悲伤，沮丧和害怕――并提供了一套切实可行的意见来指导她们。本书不仅是一本有用的手册，更是可依靠的朋友，应该被所有可能成为继母的人阅读。

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About the Author/作者介绍： Popular speaker, psychotherapist, mother, stepmother, and author Sue Patton Thoele has been a practicing therapist since 1974 and a stepmother for almost all that time. More than 500,000 copies of her books are in print and her work has been translated into nine languages. A member of the Association for Transpersonal Psychology, and of Spiritual Directors International, Thoele received her B.A. in drama from Kansas University, and her M.A. in psychology from Santa Clara University. She lives with her husband, Gene, in Colorado, and has two adult children and two adult stepchildren. The Courage to Be a Stepmom is her tenth book.
苏 帕顿 苏艾尔不只是本书的作者，她也担任代言人，精神治疗医师，母亲，继母的角色。从1974年来，苏就开始从事治疗医师的工作，一直以来都是位继母。她的书售出五十多万册，并被翻译成九国语言。作为超个人心理学学会的会员和国际精神指导会的会员，苏艾尔在肯萨斯大学获得了戏剧学士学位，在美国圣塔克拉拉大学获得心理学硕士学位。苏现在和丈夫，两个成年孩子以及两个成年继子居住在科罗拉多州。本书是作者的第十本书。

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