INFIDELITY: A SURVIVAL GUIDE

Book ID/图书代码： 09700008B28067

English Summary/英文概要： An affair is a major crisis in your relationship, but one which you can survive. For some couples, once an infidelity and its after effects are behind them, the marriage is actually stronger than before. For others, coming to terms with what the affair was really about can enable a couple to break up with less anger and create a settlement that will offer their children the best hope for a healthy adjustment after the divorce. Infidelity is a step-by-step guide that will help you cope with the emotional impact of an affair and either choose to break up or begin to build a new model for your marriage.

Chinese Summary/中文概要： 外遇是婚姻关系中的最大天敌，不过好在尚有一条幸存法则。对一些夫妇而言，外遇的出现以及随之而来的影响反而加固了婚姻本身。而对另一些夫妇来说，如果在外遇这件事上达成了共识，那他们就能好聚好散，和平分手对孩子造成的心灵创伤也将降到最低。某种程度上说，外遇是一本循序渐进的生活指南，它教会你如何处理好感情中的情绪波动——选择分手？或者重新构建一种新的婚姻模式？(兼职翻译-YYR)

Awards/获奖情况：Don-David Lusterman, a psychologist practicing in Baldwin, New York, believes that couples who work hard can save their marriages following an affair: "People often find that once infidelity is discovered and its aftereffects are behind them, their relationship is stronger than before, and subsequent infidelity is unlikely." This isn’t true only of married couples--Lusterman points out that people in long-term, committed relationships, whether straight or gay, face the same devastating emotions and have to go through a similar rebuilding process if they want to remain together after one has strayed. Whether or not a troubled couple chooses to stay together, Lusterman says the best outcome is when both partners experience changes and new insights into their lives. He provides several case studies in which couples began to regain their trust through new communication, and instructs on the kind of feelings-expressing language that can help. (He also provides a section on finding a good therapist.) This book will help people on either side of an affair begin to understand what’s going on, and help them find the resources they need to continue that quest. ---Ben Kallen, Amazon.com Review
心理学家Don-David Lusterman，现居纽约鲍德温市，他相信一对夫妇能够挽救他们岌岌可危的婚姻：“人们总是说，一旦有一次外遇，其造成的影响就会一直尾随着他们，这反而加固了婚姻关系；不过这之后的外遇就很难说了。”Lusterman还特别指出，这不是只存在于已婚夫妻的事实——只要是处在长期、忠诚关系中的伴侣——即便是同性恋也一样适用。如果破镜还想重圆，他们就必须要面对糟糕的情绪低落，遭遇相似的恢复过程。Lusterman说，不管他们是否选择和好，最好的结果就是夫妻双方都经历了改变，并对生活有了全新的认识。他还在书中提供了多起案例，案例中的夫妇都在重新交流之后重拾了对彼此的信任，还应运而生了某种特殊的情感交流方式。（此外，Lusterman还在书中专辟了一个章节，介绍如何觅得一位好的心理治疗师。）不论是受害方/过错方都将在本书中受益匪浅，他们将会找到需要不断探寻的源头。 ——Ben Kallen, Amazon.com评论

About the Author/作者介绍： Don-David Lusterman, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist in private practice in Baldwin, NY. He specializes in marriage and family therapy. A frequent media guest, he has appeared on The Today Show and Oprah and been the subject of numerous radio and print interviews. He has spent thousands of hours counseling clients who were dealing with infidelity in their marriages. This helped him to develop a model for intervention that can enables both partners to make decisions.
Don-David Lusterman博士，现居于纽约鲍尔温是的私人注册心理咨询师，致力于婚姻和家庭生活的咨询治疗。他经常担任媒体嘉宾，已参与的节目包括The Today Show和Oprah，除此之外他还是多个电台及书面访问的主题。Don-David Lusterman花了大量的时间心力咨询当事人，为的是帮助那些遭遇外遇变故的家庭渡过难关。这些经历帮助他建立起了某种特定的干预模式，促成夫妻双方作出最终的决定。

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