IT’S NOT FOR ME, BUT YOU
Book ID/图书代码： 04360708B30212
English Summary/英文概要： In their research, the authors discovered that most people could not put themselves to love others. Most of us say, “I love you. I care very much for you.” However, their actions often hurt and cause more mental torture to the other party without they realizing it. Understanding the innate ability in us to love practically anyone is one thing. We all proudly claim so. However, putting ourselves in the right frame of mind is another thing. Most of us did not ask ourselves, “Are we in the right frame of mind to offer love and kindness?” Of course, if we do not know how to engage ourselves in the right frame of mind to love someone else, we simply couldn’t execute true love and kindness as we wanted it to be.
Therefore, the crucial missing element that could explain why despite most people interviewed knew they can love someone else but failed to extend his love for another person is the lacking of the right mindset. That is, “It’s not for me, but you.”
The authors discovered that the most effective way for one to move away from selfishness to loving another person rest with his or her ability to tell himself or herself, “It’s not for me, but you”.
For everything that he or she does and if he or she did it out of his or her love and considerations for the other party, the outcome of his or her actions is the sweetest act of kindness for the recipient. With this concept in mind, the authors wrote 21 stories to illustrate the deeper meaning and contrasts between a person who thought only for himself or herself and one who always thinks for the other party.
Chinese Summary/中文概要： 说爱和付出是两回事， 我们总是以爱的借口伤害别人，自己还浑然不知。
想爱却力不从心，那是因为你的思想意识走进了误区。
书中娓娓到来21个对比鲜明的故事，向你诠释爱的真谛，教导你如何真心诚意表达自己的爱，并让另一方心悦诚服的接受你的爱。
研究发现，大多数人都无法让自己全心全意去爱别人。我们总是说：“我爱你，我非常在乎你。”然而，我们的所作所为往往会在自己无意识的状态下给另一方造成巨大痛苦。
了解到我们无法在实际中爱上任何人是一回事。对于这种情况，我们有时还会沾沾自喜。而将自己置身于合适的理念框架中却是另外一回事。我们不会扪心自问：“我们是在正确的理念框架下表达爱和仁慈的吗？”当然，如果我们连正确的理念框架为何都不知的话，又如何抒发自己的真爱和仁慈呢？
因此，尽管有些人想要去爱但却力不从心的根本问题就在于缺乏正确的思想意识。那就是：不是为我，而是为你。
作者发现让一个自私的人蜕变成博爱的人的最有效途径就是不断自语：“这么做是为了你，而不是我自己。”
如果一个人做任何事都兼顾到对另外一方的爱和考虑的话，这样就很容易让对方接受。带着这样的思想理念，作者撰写了21个故事来洞悉做事都为别人考虑的人和自私自利的人之间的区别和意义所在。(YM)
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About the Author/作者介绍： The author discovered the 4 principles of Kindness and neatly arranged them into a Woon’s hierarchy of Kindness. See appendix for the detail illustrations of what these 4 principles are. They are: Fundamental kindness; Interactive kindness; Possessive kindness and Magnanimous kindness. 作者发现了仁慈的四大法则，并将它们排列成Woon仁慈等级。附录会有详细解释四大法则的条内容。它们分别是：基本仁慈；互动仁慈；占有仁慈；宽宏仁慈。
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