THE TWISTED SISTERHOOD: UNRAVELING THE DARK LEGACY OF FEMALE FRIENDSHIPS

Book ID/图书代码： 01240009B32380

English Summary/英文概要： You know all about the trouble with “mean girls” and competitive, judgmental women. Maybe you had a cruel high school experience straight out of the movie Carrie. Maybe you find yourself anxious because your daughter’s peers are excluding her. Maybe you’ve been harassed or marginalized by other females for being something they were or are not: fat, acne-prone, brainy, a different religion, too pretty, overconfident, a different kind of mother. Maybe you have a difficult female boss who is wreaking havoc on your ability to trust women in the workplace. And maybe you’ve shrugged it all off and figured: That’s just the way girls and women operate.

But have you ever considered what all this negativity is doing to us? The stories differ, and the consequences of our incivility range in severity, but one thing seems almost universal: Women carry powerful impressions and memories of their female-inflicted wounds. The hurt lingers. In The Twisted Sisterhood, Kelly Valen picks up where her arresting New York Times essay about a painful sorority encounter left off. She pulls back the curtain on female relationships, revealing the troubling findings from her unique survey of more than three thousand women from all walks of life. Demonstrating the paradox of how we both support and sabotage one another, Valen’s research shows that although the vast majority of women report having at least one girl-friendship they wouldn’t want to live without, well over half approach female camaraderie with wariness or flat-out distrust and admit that they are unable—or unwilling—to extend themselves to certain types of women. An overwhelming majority say they have endured serious, life-altering knocks from other females, and a solid 97 percent of those polled believe it is crucial that we improve the female culture in this country. Laying bare the legacy of the belittled “girl wars” across a woman’s life, The Twisted Sisterhood exposes the hidden, enduring, and widespread fallout of our manipulations and highlights our residual undercurrent of distrust. Capturing the true attitudes of modern women, Valen gives voice to the lingering memories, ambivalence, and struggles so many of us are quietly experiencing and considers the net effect of our darker habits: an increasingly inhospitable and dysfunctional society of women. Valen also looks to the future, offering hope and practical ideas for how girls and their mothers, women, and “sisters” can come together and improve their profoundly needed female connections. No matter how content or supported you feel with your current circle of girlfriends, Valen explains, each of us holds a stake in helping foster a more mindful civility. Calling for a new normal in our relationships, her provocative and illuminating book is sure to spark a much-needed, meaningful dialogue that will inspire us to live and behave authentically for the betterment of our selves, our daughters, and the next generation of women.

Chinese Summary/中文概要： 你知道“贱女孩”和好胜主观的女性会惹出的麻烦。也许你有一个跟电影《嘉莉妹妹》毫无共同之处的残酷中学经历。也许你焦虑自己的女儿受到同龄人排挤。也许你会受到这样那样的困扰或是被其他女性冷落，原因是一些她们有的没的，诸如苗条、没有粉刺、聪明、不同宗教信仰，太漂亮、过于自信甚至不同类型的母亲。也许你有一个麻烦的女老板总是在工作中挑剔你对其他女性的信任。也许你已经习以为常并很想得开：这就是女孩或女人。
但你可曾考虑过这一切行为的消极性？故事各有不同，但我们不文明行为导致的后果却重视同样的严重。有一点似乎是普遍的：女性对于受到伤害的记忆深刻。伤痛总是在徘徊。在《扭曲的姐妹情》中，凯莉•瓦伦取材于她刊登在《纽约时报》上一个关于她本人在一次联谊会上遇到的痛苦经历。她扯下了女性友情表面的幕帘，展示了她对来自社会不同阶层3000多名女性的独特调查结果，证明了女性既互相扶持又相互排挤的矛盾。瓦伦的研究表明虽然绝大多数女性认为生活中需要至少有一个女性同伴的友谊且不可缺少，但超过半数的女性对同性友谊抱有戒心和不信任，她们承认自己不能或不愿意与某一类型女性为友。绝大多数女性表示曾饱受来自其他女性严重、长期难以恢复的打击，其中97%相信很有必要在这个国度改善女性文化。
《扭曲的姐妹情》一语道破了女性一生中被轻视的“女孩战争”传奇，揭露了深藏并持久的人为操纵下彼此无法互相信任的残余暗流。瓦伦捕捉现代女性的真实态度，道出了我们中许多人正在悄悄地经历着的挥之不去的记忆、矛盾和斗争，使我们思考这些阴暗的生活习惯产生的影响：一个充满日益敌视和不正常女性的社会。瓦伦也展望未来，提出了务实的建议，希望女孩及其母亲、其他女性和“姐妹们”能真正走到一起，改善她们之间影响深远的纽带。无论你是如何感觉或支持自己周围的女性朋友圈子，瓦伦认为我们每个人都有一张有助于培养思想修为的筹码。呼唤一个崭新而正常的友情，瓦伦富有激发性和启发性的书一定会引发一场急需而有意义的对话，这将激励我们活下去并未了我们、我们的女儿们和女性的下一代的美好未来真诚地表现自我。(兼职翻译-JDM)

Awards/获奖情况：“《扭曲的姐妹情》是一次充满智慧的突破，着眼于引人注目且复杂人际关系纽带，看似已经断裂但最终会联结所有年龄和不同文化的女性。”——莱斯利•摩根施泰纳，《妈妈们的战争》文集和畅销回忆录《疯狂的爱》作者。
“如果你认为你是独自在照料情感伤痕，谨慎地对待某些类型的女性，或是担心自己的女儿的同龄人，你需要阅读这本重要的书。凯利•瓦伦的研究表明，我们中的许多人都被女性朋友深深伤害过，从而在生活中留下挥之不去的痛苦。在分享她尖锐的女性研究时，瓦伦告诉我们，我们其实并不孤单。她指出了一条走向文明、善良和真诚的姐妹情谊的道路。”——罗莎琳德•怀斯曼，畅销书《蜂后与跟屁虫》的作者。
“凯丽•瓦伦写了一本聪明、热卖的书，告诉我们和女性有关的方面，让我们思考。”——凯利•里根，《纽约时报》畅销书《中间地带和电梯》的作者。
“这是一本勇敢而深刻的书。凯利•瓦伦分享了她自己被“朋友”羞辱排挤的痛苦经历，以及她在研究中收集的案例细节——外貌、手势、闲言碎语和冲突，所有都让他人的心灵受到创伤。当然她也向我们展示姐妹情谊使关系有伤害的力量的一面。她正确建议我们理解并监督自己的言行举止正如我们如何审视别人对待我们的方式一样。”——切柔尔•黛拉斯嘉，《奥菲利娅生存法则》和《贱女孩成长记》作者。

About the Author/作者介绍： 凯莉•瓦伦在加利福尼亚大学戴维斯分校，获得了博士学位，她是《法律评论》执行主编。作为一个女儿、姐妹、妻子和四个孩子母亲（其中三个是女儿），她担任一家总部设立于芝加哥的公司的法律顾问超过十年。她的作品刊登在《纽约时报》、《洛杉矶时报》、《旧金山纪事》杂志、《芝加哥论坛报》、《巴尔的摩太阳报》、《基督教科学箴言报》、《明尼阿波利斯明星论坛报》和其他出版物中。

Kelly Valen earned her J.D. from the University of California, Davis, where she was executive editor of the Law Review. A daughter, sister, wife, and mother of four (three of them daughters), she practiced law with a Chicago-based firm for more than a decade. Her writings have appeared in The New York Times, Los Angeles Times, San Francisco Chronicle Magazine, Chicago Tribune, Baltimore Sun, The Christian Science Monitor, Minneapolis Star Tribune, and other publications.

Format:HARDCOVER

Rights Status/版权销售情况：Simplified Chinese/简体中文：AVAILABLE

Complex/Traditional Chinese/繁体中文：AVAILABLE

Sales in other countries/其他国家销售情况：

原文第一章内容：暂无

手稿：暂无

大纲：暂无