THE COW IN THE PARKING LOT: A ZEN APPROACH TO OVERCOMING ANGER
Book ID/图书代码： 14560010B35771
English Summary/英文概要： Road rage. Domestic violence. Professionally angry TV and radio commentators. We’re a society that is swimming in anger, always about to snap. Leonard Scheff, a trial attorney, once used anger to fuel his court persona, until he came to realize just how poisonous anger is. That and his intense study of Buddhism and meditation changed him. His transformation can be summarized in a simple parable: Imagine you are circling a crowded parking lot when, just as you spot a space, another driver races ahead and takes it. Easy to imagine the rage. But now imagine that instead of another driver, a cow has lumbered into that parking space and settled down. The anger dissolves into bemusement. What really changed? You—your perspective.
Using simple Buddhist principles and applying them in a way that is easy for non-Buddhists to understand and put into practice, Scheff has created an interactive book that helps readers change perspective, step by step, so that they can replace the anger in their lives with a newfound happiness. Based on the successful anger management program Scheff created, The Cow in the Parking Lot shows how anger is based on unmet demands, and introduces the four most common types—Important and Reasonable (you want love from your partner); Reasonable but Unimportant (you didn’t get that seat in the restaurant window); Irrational (you want respect from a stranger); and the Impossible (you want someone to fix everything wrong in your life).
Scheff shows how, once we identify our real unmet demands we can dissolve the anger; how, once we understand our "buttons," we can change what happens when they’re pushed. He shows how to laugh at ourselves—a powerful early step in changing angry behavior. By the end, as the reader continues to observe and fill in the exercises honestly, it won’t matter who takes that parking space—only you can make yourself angry.
Chinese Summary/中文概要： 你知道人在生氣時，智力會退化成嬰兒嗎？
判斷力降低、抵抗力減弱，這將使你做出錯誤的判斷！ 我們所處的社會裡，充滿了憤怒：因車禍造成的憤怒、家庭的憤怒、電視或電台的憤怒；我們好像泅泳於憤怒之中，隨時隨地都會爆炸似的。
作者倫納德．雪夫(Leonard Scheff)是個審判律師，他曾運用憤怒的氣勢，來壓過法庭上的人…他也一直引以為傲；直到有一天，他突然發現，「憤怒」是一個多麼可怕的力量。
後來，他努力鑽研禪學和冥想，改變了他的一生。
他的舉出了一個簡單的比喻：
想像你正在一個擁擠的停車場裡尋找車位，猛然看見一個空車位時，卻突然有另一位駕駛衝進來，搶走了你原本看到的那個車位；可以想見你當時會有多麼生氣！
讓我們換個場景，想像一下：如果搶到車味的不是另一部車的司機，而是一支笨拙地前行的母牛，緩緩在你的停車位上坐下歇息，你的忿怒將在瞬間被困惑所溶解…
什麼都沒有改變，唯一改變的是你的想法。
運用禪學中簡單的元素，即使你不信佛，也能輕易地理解並運用它！
這個方法讓讀者循序漸進地改變，開始懂得讓新發現的快樂，取代生活中的憤怒。
作者將我們的忿怒分為以下四種：
1. 重要且理性的憤怒 (比如說︰你想從你的夥伴納而得到一些關懷)
2. 理性但較不重要的憤怒 (比如說︰你不想坐在窗戶旁邊的座位)
3. 非理性的憤怒 (比如說︰你期待一個陌生人尊重你！)
4. 不重要的憤怒 (比如說︰你希望別人幫你解決麻煩。)
作者告訴我們，其實我們可以簡單地將這些憤怒元素給溶解掉！ 其實我們可以對這些憤怒一笑置之！像是找不到停車位諸如此類的問題，其實，沒有人會讓你生氣，讓你生氣的，是你自己！ (SL)
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About the Author/作者介绍： 作者Leonard Scheff是一個審判律師，也是一個鑽研禪學的佛教徒。
作者網站介紹： www.TransformingAnger.com
Susan Edmiston, 是紐約時報作家，也是雜誌編輯。
Format:电子手稿
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