THE LOST ART OF LISTENING: HOW LEARNING TO LISTEN CAN IMPROVE RELATIONSHIPS

Book ID/图书代码： 05530004B06224

English Summary/英文概要： One person talks; the other listens. It’s so basic that we take it for granted. Unfortunately, most of us think of ourselves as better listeners than we actually are. Why do we so often fail to connect when speaking with family members, romantic partners, colleagues, or friends? How do emotional reactions get in the way of real communication? This thoughtful, witty, and empathic book has already helped over 100,000 readers break through conflicts and transform their personal and professional relationships. Experienced therapist Mike Nichols provides vivid examples, easy-to-learn techniques, and practical exercises for becoming a better listener梐nd making yourself heard and understood, even in difficult situations.

Chinese Summary/中文概要： 什么是真正的倾听？为什么它在现代生活中变得这样稀少？作者记述了人们渴望被倾听和被了解的愿望，解释了阻碍人们倾听的理由，告诉人们如何利用倾听的艺术来改进和修复各种人际关系，例如夫妻之间，情人之间，亲戚之间，父子之间，母女之间，朋友之间，同事之间，等等。书中有许多来自于真实生活的幽默例子，还有不少简单实用的练习和娱乐性的自助指南，使人读来轻松愉快。

Awards/获奖情况："I use this book in teaching first-semester graduate students counseling micro-skills. The students endorse it as the best of the texts I use. The Lost Art of Listening uses pragmatic examples from real life to illustrate active listening. This approach makes the material come alive for students who are just learning active listening, and is a great refresher for those who are already familiar with it. In addition, I often recommend the book to couples I see in my private practice."---Iverson M. Eicken, PhD, Adjunct Instructor, Department of Counseling, California State University, Fullerton

"This book is worthy of reading and rereading, if only to remind yourself of its simple message to stop what you’re doing and listen to the important people in your life. It has spoken to me at different times, helping me to improve relationships with my spouse, child, and friends."---Doug O., Walnut Creek, California

"I use this book in two different classes dealing with pastoral care. I’ve found Dr. Nichols’s work to be unique in its presentation of listening as a skill set that can be learned. The text has been especially helpful in teaching empathy, a much-needed element of pastoral care. I heartily recommend this book."---Rev. Steve Seaton, MM, Pastoral Counseling Program, Mid-America Christian University

"Lily Tomlin once advised that we ’listen with an intensity that most people save for talking.’ The Lost Art of Listening tells us how. This is a very special book that distills years of clinical wisdom into practical advice about improving our most important relationships and, ultimately, who we are. Through the lens of the importance to us all of being heard, Dr. Nichols tells us how genuine listening can prevent broken connections and dried up relationships. Following his own advice, he presents clear, familiar, and relevant examples of real-life family problems and frustrations, in a way that leaves us open to accepting and using his messages. He stresses the need to avoid letting anger, anxiety, and fear of being hurt impede our ability to listen, and tells stories that show us how to manage everything from criticism to reticence and intrusiveness. Simultaneously, he provides clues for improving self esteem and decreasing emotional reactivity. This is more than a good book; it is a vital manual for any of us who would either like to feel good about our relationships or avoid dying before the end of our lives."---Carol M. Anderson, MSW, PhD, Western Psychiatric Institute and Clinic, Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania

"A beautifully written, articulate guide to listening, this book is an antidote to the sense of diminishment experienced by so many as our culture short-circuits our need for interchange with others. Using personal stories from his life and the lives of patients, Dr. Nichols offers clarification of the listening process between friends, with family, in work situations, and in intimate relationships. The Lost Art of Listening is a pleasure to read and a valuable tool for therapists."---Marion F. Solomon, PhD, author of Narcissism and Intimacy

"What is true listening and why, the author asks, has it become a near-rarity in modern life? Nichols shows how to utilize this [art] to improve and repair relationships with spouses, lovers, relatives, children, friends, and colleagues, and even how to boost one’s own ’listenability.’ He also explains what listening isn’t, explaining why people don’t listen and listing obstacles to listening (especially defensiveness owing to emotional overreaction). Humor, true life examples and simple exercises make this a practical and even entertaining self-help guide."---Publishers Weekly

"Powerful and informative."---Contemporary Psychology

About the Author/作者介绍： Michael P. Nichols, PhD, Professor of Psychology at the College of William and Mary, is the author of Stop Arguing with Your Kids, among numerous other books. He is a well-known therapist and a popular speaker.
Michael P. Nichols是大学的心理学教授，也是著名的家庭问题心理治疗师和受欢迎的电视演讲师。他写过十几本书，如“家庭问题心理治疗”，“停止与你的孩子争吵”等。

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