THE FLIGHT FROM INTIMACY: HEALING YOUR RELATIONSHIP OF COUNTER-DEPENDENCE - THE OTHER SIDE OF CO-DEPENDENCY
Book ID/图书代码： 09778011B47110
English Summary/英文概要： Do you know someone who... — Has trouble being close to others?
— Has a strong need to be right – all the time?
— Acts self-centered and egotistical?
— Never asks for help?
— Expects perfection in self and others?
— Seldom appears vulnerable or weak?
— Has difficulty relaxing?
If so, this person may suffer from counter-dependency, the little-known flip side of co-dependency. The Flight from Intimacy, by psychologists Janae and Barry Weinhold, reveals counter-dependency as the major barrier to creating intimate relationships. People with counter-dependent behaviors appear strong, secure, and successful on the outside, while on the inside they feel weak, fearful, insecure, and needy. They function well in the world of business but often struggle in intimate relationships. Being in a relationship with this kind of person can be extremely frustrating.
The Flight from Intimacy shows readers how to recognize and cope with counter-dependent people. And if you recognize yourself in the description above, this book will help you learn how to change. It teaches readers how to use committed relationships to heal childhood wounds and provides proven ways to use conflicts as opportunities for creating intimate, partnership relationships.
Chinese Summary/中文概要： 你知道這種人嗎……
—接近他人有困難
—一直強烈地認為自己是對的
—自私自利，一直以自我為中心
—從來不向他人求助
—對自己或他人要求完美
—從來不表現脆弱的一面
—不能過放鬆情緒
如果你回答“是”的話，那麼這個人正在飽受“反依賴”—也就是“關懷強迫症的”對立面—的痛苦。該書依然由心理學家巴里和簡妮共同奉獻，揭露了反依賴是建立親密關係的主要障礙。患有反依賴症狀的患者通常外表上表現的而很強大，富有安全感，很成功，而內在卻軟弱，沒有安全感以及貧瘠。在商界中，這些人表現的遊刃有餘，但一到親密關係方面就掙扎不已。與這種人相處真的相當受挫。
本書告訴讀者如何識別以及如何與反依賴的人群相處。如果你發現自己患有以上症狀，那麼這本書將幫助你學習如何去改變。該書還教會讀者如何使用忠實的關係治療兒時的創傷，以及用矛盾作為建立親密夥伴關係這一已被證明的可行方法。（from XMM）
Awards/获奖情况：“We need this book to fill a gap in our understanding of co-dependency. The Weinholds are experts in this field. I recommend their work as having the highest integrity. This is a crucial addition to the literature on co-dependency.”---John Bradshaw, from the foreword, In 1987, Melody Beattie introduced codependence to the masses with her bestseller Codependent No More. The Weinholds, husband-and-wife psychologists and cofounders of the Carolina Institute for Conflict Resolution & Creative Leadership, weighed in with 1999’s Breaking Free of the Co-Dependency Trap (recently republished by NWL); here, they look at counter-dependence, the little-discussed, hard-to-pin-down yin to co-dependency’s yang. Counter-dependency is characterized by controlling and self-centered behavior: where co-dependents cling to others, counter-dependents push them away; where co-dependents have low self esteem, counter-dependents have "falsely inflated self-esteem"; co-dependents are people-pleasers, whereas counter-dependents are people controllers. The results are "loneliness, alienation and a sense of ’quiet desperation.’" The Weinholds do a clear and thorough job discussing and dissecting counter-dependency as a key factor behind failed relationships, and also make a case for its role in high profile church scandals, post-traumatic stress disorder in returning soldiers and even the collapse of the housing market. Packed with information taken from the Weinholds’ 23 years of research and counseling, this isn’t a light read, but case studies, charts and exercises, along with practical tips, keep things moving. While the notion that unresolved childhood issues continue to play out in adult relationships is nothing new, the Weinholds’ insight and emphasis on self-sufficiency should help readers break free from dysfunctional behavioral patterns.---From Publishers Weekly
About the Author/作者介绍： 五十多年來，DRS. BARRY 和 JANAE WEINHOLD一直以獲得授權的心理健康專家的身份為廣大人民服務。巴里是一名心理學家，簡妮是一名職業諮詢師。巴里曾是科羅拉多大學斯普林斯校區 “諮詢與人類服務”專案的主席，目前以榮譽教授身份退休。簡妮也曾在該分校擔任過副教授。二人共同創辦了“卡羅萊納州衝突解決和創造性領導才能研究所。想要瞭解更多相關資訊請參見：www.weinholds.org。DRS. BARRY and JANAE WEINHOLD have served for over five decades as licensed mental health professionals. Barry is licensed as a psychologist, and Janae is a professional counselor. Barry is professor emeritus and former chair of the University of Colorado at Colorado Springs counseling and human services program. Janae is a former adjunct professor at the University of Colorado at Colorado Springs. They are the cofounders of the Carolina Institute for Conflict Resolution and Creative Leadership near Asheville, North Carolina. Their website is www.weinholds.org.
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