THE CURSE OF LOVELY

Book ID/图书代码： 07980011B50231

English Summary/英文概要： How to break free from others’ expectations and become your true self. A fresh twist on assertiveness.

Many people’s lives, relationships, careers and wellbeing are blighted by the belief that to be liked, loved and accepted they have to limit themselves to the behaviours they believe are approved of by others. This might mean some or all of the following: always being polite, nice, helpful, charming, fun, making people feel good about themselves, not letting people down, never saying ’no’, avoiding conflict and putting others’ needs before their own.

Jacqui Marson in her 15 years of clinical experience as a psychologist has coined the phrase ’the curse of lovely’ to describe this growing trend. Many people would like to be known as lovely, but for a growing number of people it can feel like a curse. They feel trapped, suffocated and oppressed by the weight of others’ expectations and feel that change is not an option. This highly practical and motivational book will show readers how to break the cycle or curse of lovely to live a more complete, fulfilling life.

Chinese Summary/中文概要： 生活中总会有一些这样人，他 (她)们将大部分精力都花在家人、朋友、同事身上，对陌生人也是有求必应，而且一旦停止这样做，就会觉得非常内疚，仿佛受了一场“可爱的诅咒”。在他（她）们看来，很多事情的优先级都高于自己的身心健康，结果支持了所有人，却让自己崩溃。

心理学家把这些始终把友善待人作为唯一行为准则并因此受尽委屈的人称为“圣母型人格”。

本书作者是一名心理治疗师，也是一名深受“可爱诅咒”折磨的“圣母”，她曾经在手臂骨折的情况下还坚持为家人开车，甚至一同去划船，直到医生开出诊断证明，打上石膏，她才觉得自己可以歇一歇了。这件事让她意识到，如果不想办法解除这个“诅咒”，人生终将被摧毁。于是，她联系了一位曾经一起工作十年的心理治疗师，尝试性地迈出了解除“诅咒”的第一步（同时也是为本书“播种”的第一步）。

作者从自己的治疗过程中受益良多，同时，也从寻求治疗的咨询者们那里学到了很多。在这本书里，她将分享“圣母们”自我治疗和心灵成长的故事。

本书不是让人们放弃对这个世界表达善意，而是鼓励过人们为自己争取一些时间和自由，毕竟，每个人都有权利好好爱自己。(DB)

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About the Author/作者介绍： 雅基•马森（Jacqui Marson），心理咨询师，治疗师，英国心理学协会成员，拥有咨询心理学和临床心理学两个硕士学位。她曾在伦敦的多家机构从事心理学临床工作，其中包括知名的霍洛威监狱及圣托马斯医院。目前，雅基在科芬园（Covent Garden）拥有一家运营良好的私人诊所。此外，她也开设讲习班及培训，帮助世界各地的人们及企业提高交流技能、建立信心及进行团队建设。她还是一名备受媒体推崇的心理学知识传播者，她的文章曾在《心理月刊》《心理学家》《咨询心理学评论》等刊物上发表。她还经常受邀参加英国广播公司、其他商业电台及电视台的节目。目前，雅基与丈夫及两个儿子一同生活在伦敦。

Jacqui Marson is a chartered counselling psychologist with a private practice in Covent Garden, London. She is the inhouse psychologist for Channel Five News and has a monthly column, Fast Therapy, in Psychologies magazine.

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