DANCING WITH FIRE: A MINDFUL WAY TO LOVING RELATIONSHIPS
Book ID/图书代码： 11185013B59764
English Summary/英文概要： The search for inner peace and the heart’s desire for love often seem like irreconcilable aims. Spiritual teachers say that love seduces us away from spiritual growth, while psychologists argue that love’s juiciness is what life is about; meditation is navel-gazing.
Reconciling these opposites, John Amodeo shows how spirituality and vibrant relationships are identical. He says that Buddha’s concept of the root of suffering is misunderstood. It is not desire that causes suffering; the true root of suffering is isolation. Desire itself is the fire that springs from the basic force of life. What makes the difference is how we relate to desire. Teaching us to do so in a positive way is this book’s purpose.
In a conversational tone, Amodeo presents relationship as sacred experience. He teaches how to welcome desire mindfully rather than suppress it, how to avoid clinging and craving, and how to overcome fear of failure in relating. He also discusses meditation as self-intimacy and holding ourselves with loving-kindness. Lastly, he explores the role of community in spiritual awakening and the issue of whom to trust—our guru or ourselves?
Chinese Summary/中文概要： 寻找内心的平静和心脏对于爱情的渴望往往似乎似乎是不可调和的两个目标。灵性老师说爱情诱惑我们远离灵性的成长,而心理学家认为,爱的多汁性就是生活的意义;冥想是纸上谈兵。
John Amodeo表明协调了这些对立面之后,灵性和活力的关系是相同的。他说,佛陀对于痛苦根源的概念被误解了。不是欲望导致痛苦; 苦难真正的源头是隔离。欲望本身是火,是生活的基本力量。与欲望相关有什么不同呢。这本书的目的是以一种积极的方式教我们如何做。
以一种交谈的语气, Amodeo将这种关系呈现为一种神圣的体验。他教如何如何小心谨慎的处理渴望而不是压抑它,如何避免执着和渴望,以及如何克服与之相关的对失败的恐惧。他还将冥想看做自我亲密和保持自己的友好。最后,他探讨了在灵性觉醒时社区的角色和相信谁的问题-相信大师或自己?(LNL)
Awards/获奖情况：寻找内心的平静和心脏对于爱情的渴望往往似乎似乎是不可调和的两个目标。灵性老师说爱情诱惑我们远离灵性的成长,而心理学家认为,爱的多汁性就是生活的意义;冥想是纸上谈兵。
John Amodeo表明协调了这些对立面之后,灵性和活力的关系是相同的。他说,佛陀对于痛苦根源的概念被误解了。、不是欲望导致痛苦; 苦难真正的源头是隔离。欲望本身是火,是生活的基本力量。与欲望相关有什么不同呢。这本书的目的是以一种积极的方式教我们如何做。
以一种交谈的语气, Amodeo将这种关系呈现为一种神圣的体验。他教如何如何小心谨慎的处理渴望而不是压抑它,如何避免执着和渴望,以及如何克服与之相关的对失败的恐惧。他还将冥想看做自我亲密和保持自己的友好。最后,他探讨了在灵性觉醒时社区的角色和相信谁的问题-相信大师或自己?
Dancing With Fire is wise, integrated, life affirming, and practical. John invites us and accompanies us to discover a fully human, loving, spiritual maturity.--Dr. Jack Kornfield, author, A Path With Heart
A fresh and lucid voice in our emerging Western spirituality, John Amodeo offers a powerful synthesis of Buddhist teachings with attachment theory and the best of Western psychological understanding. Particularly compelling and promising is the weaving of Focusing—a body-oriented psychotherapy developed by Eugene Gendlin—with mindfulness meditation. Through this, and deep insights into the nature of relationships, Dancing with Fire gives us invaluable guidance in cultivating true intimacy with our lives.-- Tara Brach, psychologist and popular teacher of Mindfulness meditation, author of Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life with the Heart of a Buddha
In this book John Amodeo opens a new door into great truths of Buddhism and what they mean for our western world. He links meditation, mindfulness, humanistic psychology and the science of human bonding into a coherent whole. This book is a great contribution and a must read for every intelligent person who aspires to live as an awake and vibrant human being.-- Susan M. Johnson, Ph.D., author of Hold Me Tight, Professor of Clinical Psychology at the University of Ottawa, and developer of Emotional Focused Couple Therapy
With heartfelt kindness and down-to-earth usefulness, this book shows how to bring together lofty spiritual wisdom and juicy human passions. Drawing on his deep experience as a therapist and meditator, Dr. Amodeo has given us one of those rare books that actually bridges left and right brain, west and east, flesh and spirit - and self and other.-- Rick Hanson, Ph.D., author of Buddha’s Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom
With masterful, lucid simplicity, Dancing with Fire gives us a vision of how to make a fervent quest for spiritual freedom dovetail with an equally ardent search for love and intimate connection. Amodeo has created a founding treatise for the new, embodied wholeness so many of us yearn to find today. Yet reading it doesn’t feel like listening to a sage give a lecture; it feels like you’re having a conversation with a trusted friend. If you want to ’curl up by the fire’ with a book full of authentic Buddhist wisdom, this may be just the book you need right now.-- Saniel Bonder, founder of Waking Down in Mutuality, author, Healing the Spirit/Matter Split
Liberation and awakening are about being fully human. Spiritual awakening, personal growth, fullness of relating, learning to be a more healing presence for others, fulfillment through intimacy—these are all just different names for the same thing. The fact that a split has developed—many splits, in fact—between therapy, spirituality, and personal growth is a sign that something has gone wrong. There has to be a re-integration. This book is an important landmark on the path to such wholeness.-- David Brazier, psychotherapist, leader of the Amida Order, and author of The Feeling Buddha: A Buddhist Psychology of Character, Adversity and Passion
About the Author/作者介绍： John Amodeo博士作为心理治疗师已经超过30年了，他是一个教练，训练的重点是为夫妇提供肉体创伤和感情经历集中治疗 (EFT)。Amodeo也是子午线大学的兼职教员，也是爱和关系的资深国际讲师。此外,他还信仰佛教，研究精神智慧超过40年。
Amodeo是一个作家,担任《瑜伽杂志》特约编辑已经10年了,也为出版物作采访或写文章,包括《芝加哥论坛报》《达拉斯晨报》《落基山新闻报》《今日心理学》和世界性的杂志。他还做过CNN、CNBC、多纳休和新维度的特约媒体嘉宾。
John Amodeo, PhD, has been a licensed psychotherapist for over 30 years. He is a Focusing Trainer and is trained in Somatic Experiencing for trauma and Emotionally-Focused Therapy for couples (EFT). Amodeo is also an adjunct faculty member of Meridian University and is an international lecturer and on love and relationships. Additionally, he has practiced Buddhism and studied spiritual wisdom for 40 years.
Amodeo was a writer and contributing editor with Yoga Journal for 10 years and has been interviewed or written articles for publications that include the Chicago Tribune, The Dallas Morning News, The Rocky Mountain News, Psychology Today and Cosmopolitan magazine. He has also appeared as a featured media guest on CNN, CNBC, Donahue and New Dimensions.
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