IT’S NOT RAINING DADDY, IT’S HAPPY

Book ID/图书代码： 06400014B67599

English Summary/英文概要： Ben Brooks-Dutton’s wife - the great love of his life - was knocked down and killed by a car as he walked beside her, pushing their two-year-old son in his buggy. Life changed forever. Suddenly Ben was a widower deep in shock, left to raise their bewildered child alone.

In the aftermath Ben searched for guidance from men in similar situations, but it appeared that young widowed fathers don’t talk. Well meaning loved ones admired his strength. The unwritten rule seemed to be to ’shut up, man up and hide your pain’.

Lost, broken and afraid of the future, two months after his wife Desreen’s death, Ben started a blog with the aim of rejecting outdated conventions of grief and instead opening up about his experiences. Within months Life as a Widower, had received a million hits and had started an all-too-often hushed conversation about the reality of loss and grief.

This is the story of a man and a child who lost the woman they so dearly love and what happened in the year that followed. Ben describes the conflicting emotions that come from facing grief head on. He rages against the clichés used around loss and shows the strange and cruel ways in which grief can take hold. He also charts what it means to become a sole parent to a child who has lost their mother and cannot yet understand the meaning of death. Through the shock and sadness shine moments of hope and insight. So much of what Ben learns comes from watching his son struggle, survive and live, as children do, from moment to moment where hurt can turn to happiness and anger can turn to joy.

This is a story of loss, heartbreak and courage. At its heart is the funny, infuriating and life affirming relationship between a father and son and their ongoing love for an extraordinary woman.

Chinese Summary/中文概要： 对于本•布鲁克斯•唐顿而言，妻子是他毕生的挚爱，然而他挚爱的妻子却在他的身边被一辆汽车撞倒，不幸死亡。从此，一切都永远的变了。一夕之间，本变成了一个处于深度震惊之中的鳏夫，必须独自承担起抚养同样不知所措的儿子的责任。

这场悲剧发生后，本从和他有着相同际遇的人们的身上寻找方向，但似乎那些同样的年轻鳏夫们并不愿就此多谈。出于好意的挚爱之人们总是敬佩他们的勇气。因此未加说明的潜规则似乎就变成了：缄口不语，藏起伤痛，重新站起。

在妻子德斯琳去世后两个月，迷茫、伤心同时对未来恐惧不已的本开设了一个博客，希望能够摆脱来自过去的悲伤延续，取而代之以敞开式的全新经历体验。短短数月的鳏夫生活便为他赢来了上百万的点击率，他也从此开始了有关于其自身迷失与悲伤经历的私下交谈之旅。

这是一个有关于一个男人和一个孩子的故事，以及两人失去挚爱女人后发生的种种一切。本描述了一边面对悲伤一边向前的过程中的种种矛盾情感。对于那些陈腐的迷失后症状，他表示出了强烈的抵制与反抗，相反地他为我们展示了另一种奇怪而残酷的方式，让悲伤尽情释放。同时他还谈及成为一名单亲父亲以及这一身份对于一名尚无法理解死亡为何物的幼小孩童的意义。悲伤与震惊过后，希望与深刻思考的时刻终将来临。通过观察儿子用他孩童的方式为之奋斗，努力的生存下去，本自己也学到了很多，慢慢地他们学会伤痛终究可以转化为幸福，而愤怒也会转而成为快乐。

这是一个关于迷失、心碎和勇气的故事。然而全书的最深处，它却也是风趣的，令人恼怒的，但又同时充满了最终经历了生活考验的父子关系，以及两人为了一名伟大的女性而延续下去的深沉的爱。（DC）

Awards/获奖情况：Online pieces are in the links below:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2613483/Wheres-Mummy-gone-A-family-walking-home-A-speeding-car-And-little-boy-left-asking-one-unbearable-question-Now-fathers-written-moving-book-year.html

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2614523/One-night-I-watched-TV-came-I-sobbed-wife-Id-lost-Then-I-felt-two-soft-little-hands-wiping-away-tears.html

About the Author/作者介绍： 本1979年出生于绍斯波特，他从小和父母已经两名长兄生活在那里，直到18岁时进入大学生活。他在利兹和西班牙学习了长达四年，随后便开始了其在公共关系领域的职业生涯，这一次的工作持续了长达12年之久，同时也见证了他在2012年时成为了伦敦一家大型人力资源公司主管的荣耀时刻。然而就在这之后不久，他的妻子德斯琳不幸遭遇车祸，使得本从此成为了一名鳏夫以及单亲爸爸，肚子照顾当时年仅2岁的儿子杰克森。妻子去世后两个月，本开设了一个名为“一名鳏夫的生活”的博客，想要试图帮助那些和他有着同样遭遇的人们重新敞开心扉，面对自己的经历与悲伤。数月之间，该博客便聚集了来自世界各地深处悲伤之中的关注者们，本的第一部书作即将发表。

本现与杰克森居住在伦敦东南部。

Ben was born in 1979 in Southport, where he lived with his parents and two elder brothers until he left home for university aged 18. After studying for four years in Leeds and Spain, Ben embarked on a career in public relations, which lasted 12 years and saw him take charge as the managing director of a large PR firm in London in 2012. Just months later his wife, Desreen, was hit and killed by a car leaving Ben a widower and sole parent to their two-year-old son, Jackson. Ben started a blog called Life as a Widower two months after his wife’s death in a bid to help others by opening up about his own experiences of grief. Within months the blog amassed a worldwide audience united in grief and became the precursor for Ben’s first book.

He and Jackson live together in southeast London.

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