LOVE ME, DON’ T LEAVE ME: OVERCOMING FEAR OF ABANDONMENT AND BUILDING LASTING, LOVING RELATIONSHIPS
Book ID/图书代码： 09700014B71780
English Summary/英文概要： Everyone thrives on love, comfort, and the safety of family, friends, and community. But if you are denied these basic comforts early in life, whether through a lack of physical affection or emotional bonding, you may develop intense fears of abandonment that can last well into adulthood—fears so powerful that they can actually cause you to push people away.
If you suffer from fears of abandonment, you may have underlying feelings of anger, shame, fear, anxiety, depression, and grief. These emotions are intense and painful, and when they surface they can lead to a number of negative behaviors, such as jealousy, clinging, and emotional blackmail. In Love Me, Don’t Leave Me, therapist Michelle Skeen combines acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), schema therapy, and dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT) to help you identify the root of your fears.
In this book you’ll learn how schema coping behaviors—deeply entrenched and automatic behaviors rooted in childhood experiences and fears—can take over and cause you to inadvertently sabotage your relationships. By recognizing these coping behaviors and understanding their cause, you will not only gain powerful insights into your own mind, but also into the minds of those around you.
If you are ready to break the self-fulfilling cycle of mistrust, clinginess, and heartbreak and start building lasting, trusting relationships, this book will be your guide.
Chinese Summary/中文概要： 每个人的生活中都需要爱，关怀，家庭，朋友以及社区给予的安全感。但如果在童年的时候就缺乏这些情感寄托，儿童就会形成自己会被遗弃的一种担忧，哪怕成人之后，这种担忧也会一直存在，甚至会使别人对你敬而远之。
如果你也有自己会被遗弃的担忧，那在你身上可能还会存在愤怒，羞耻，害怕，焦虑，忧郁和悲伤等潜在的情绪，这些情绪是如此强烈痛苦，一旦爆发就会造成许多负面的行为，例如妒忌，固执，情感勒索等。在《爱我，别走》中，临床医学家米歇尔·斯京融合了接受与承诺治疗法，图式疗法和辩证行为疗法帮助患者认识到恐惧的根源。
在这本书中，你会了解到应对行为，即因儿时的恐惧和经历而形成的近乎本能的行为，会在不经意间破坏你与身边人的关系。只要认识到了这些应对行为及其根源，读者不仅能理解并控制自己的思想，也能透过别人的行为看穿他们的想法。
如果你再也不想过着充满了不信任，偏执，心碎的生活，并渴望建立长久互信的关系，这本书将会是你的最佳向导。（XAT）
Awards/获奖情况：“走出森林的唯一方法就是找到一条出路，摆脱植根已久的被遗弃感的唯一方法则是建立，维持，拥有长久互信的恋爱关系。在《爱我，别走》中，米歇尔·斯京就用自己的专业知识和同理心为读者铺开了这样的一条出路，读者将在自我认识，自我发现后最终完成自我转变，收获长久互信的关系。”——丽萨·兰博鲍姆，《恋爱中的焦虑：如何控制你的焦虑情绪，减少冲突，与伴侣重归于好》作者
“《爱我，别走》将带读者走出恋爱关系中最崎岖的一段旅程，米歇尔为读者提供了必不可少的地图和清晰的指南，使读者能慢慢走出阴霾，自我治愈，与他人建立起长久互信的关系，并重塑自己的核心价值观。读这本书的时候，你会觉得自己如同在与一位资深的临床医学家交谈一般。坐下静心体味米歇尔医生为你准备的心理指南吧。”——瑞贝卡·E·威廉斯，心理学博士，临床医学家，获奖作品《成瘾者治疗工作手册》合著作者
“The way out of the woods is to find a path through—a way to walk through deep-seated fears of abandonment and emerge with the ability to build, maintain, and enjoy lasting, loving relationships. In Love Me, Don’t Leave Me, Michelle Skeen has expertly crafted one such path. With skill and compassion, Skeen guides readers through a journey that facilitates self-knowledge, self-discovery, and ultimately, the personal transformation needed to enjoy lasting, loving relationships." —Lissah Lorberbaum, MA, coauthor of Anxious in Love: How to Manage Your Anxiety, Reduce Conflict, and Reconnect with Your Partner
“Love Me Don’t Leave Me ventures into the rough terrain of your most challenging relationships. Michelle Skeen provides you with an indispensable map and clear direction toward a new pathway to heal yourself and develop smart and healthy ways to interact with others. This book will offer you clear tools to realign with your core values. Reading this book feels like you are sitting across from a deeply caring therapist. Pull up a chair and experience Skeen’s warm and compassionate guidance for yourself.”—Rebecca E. Williams, PhD, clinical psychologist and coauthor of the award-winning The Mindfulness Workbook for Addiction
About the Author/作者介绍： 米歇尔·斯京，心理学博士，临床治疗师，在旧金山工作居住。她利用图式，意识和行为等疗法为个人和情侣提供心理帮助，例如控制体重，愤怒，忧郁，焦虑等负面情绪，以及因残障和创伤引发的心理疾病。米歇尔是《重要的伴侣》的作者以及《针对个人问题的接受与承诺疗法》的合著作者。米歇尔还是一档周播电台节目“米歇尔·斯京医生”的主持人，欲知详情请见： www.michelleskeen.com.
前言作者：温蒂·T·巴赫是新泽西州认知行为治疗中心的创始人和临床主任，纽约州图式疗法机构的教员。同时，她还是意识疗法组委会的成立者之一。温蒂还拥有一家私家诊所，专门治疗因自恋和冲突频发引起的婚姻问题。
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