Chinese Summary/中文概要:
孩子不打不成器,不罵不聽話?
然而打在兒身,痛在父母心!
25年推廣親子教育不遺餘力的兒童行為心理專家Michael Hawton
陪您走過孩子品格發展最頭痛也最重要的黃金時期
本書作者Michael Hawton說:「我一點也不想成為總是對孩子大吼大叫的父母。」相信是許多父母的無奈心聲!
父母都希望孩子懂得對自己的行為負責,明辨是非,知道什麼該做什麼不該做,懂得自制。但這該如何教?天真的孩子不懂好或壞,當孩子出現偏差行為該如何導正?打罵孩子傷身傷心又傷感情,還不能確定是否會有正面的效果,該如何處理才好?但不打不罵真的能改正孩子的問題行為嗎?如何才能確保孩子在品格發展上的道路不走偏?
Michael Hawton身為教師及心理學家,自己也是兩個小孩的爸爸,研究兒童行為心理已有25年,推廣親子教育不遺餘力,在美國、英國、中國、澳洲、紐西蘭演講及開設workshop,成功幫助數千對父母!他說父母只要用對方法面對及修正孩子的問題行為,孩子的耐心、應變能力、責任心、自制力甚至生活技能等也會相應成長!作者在書中提供實例、插圖、地圖、數據以及實用資訊,以平實口吻協助父母面對親子間最頭痛的時刻!
Contents
What Talk Less, Listen More is all about
PART ONE. TRENDS, PRINCIPLES AND MISTAKES
one. Trends in the field of parenting
two. Children’s development and behaviour
three. Emotional overload and its effect on children’s behaviour
four. Sorting behaviour to respond more flexibly
PART TWO. CHANGE
five. Understanding systems and patterns in families
PART THREE. MANAGING DIFFICULT BEHAVIOUR—QUIETLY
six. A quick overview of the three choices for managing difficult behaviour — quietly
seven. Ignoring behaviour — and managing yourself
eight. Signalling — a quiet way to stop children misbehaving
nine. Emotion coachng to teach self-regulation
PART FOUR. PROMOTING THE BEHAVIOUR YOU WANT
ten. Resolving poor attitudes and behaviour in older children
eleven. Building bonds, teaching skills and encouraging competency
twelve. Bringing it all together and thinking about the future
PART FIVE. EXTRA RESOURCES
Test your know-how
Children and technology
Resources and further reading
(Eva)