MY CHILD’S SEXUALITY

Chinese Summary/中文概要：

你/妳常常因小孩子這些問題不知所措嗎 ?
《什麼是同性戀 ?》
《小孩從哪裡來 ?》
或是你有這樣子的疑問：
《何時該停止與小孩一起洗澡 ?》
《我該禁止小朋友裸露身體嗎 ?》

作者以問與答的方式，輕鬆解決父母常容易因小孩提出的性相關的問題，而不知所措或結巴的窘境。

本書目錄
Sexuality: the child’s and the adult’s 認識大人及小孩的性徵
} What are the differences between children’s sexuality and adult sexuality?............. 9
Psychosexual development 性心理的發展
} When and how does children’s sexuality begin?...................................................... 11
} Why do babies put everything in their mouths?..................................................... 12
} Should I breast feed or bottle feed?...................... 14
} Are there disadvantages to breastfeeding?........... 14
} Should I give my baby a pacifier? What if he keeps asking for it when he’s older?.... 14
} Why is my child’s “blankie” so important to him?.................................................. 17
} Why is the toilet-training stage such a big challenge for children and their parents?...... 18
} Until what age can children sleep in our bed? How do we make them leave once hey’ve got used to sleeping there? .......................20
} Why do little girls want to be Daddy’s princess and boys want to be Mommy’s little man? ........... 22
} How does parental separation affect children during the Oedipal period? ................................. 27
} Why is it “boys with boys and girls with girls” when children are 6-12 years?............. 28
} My child is “in love.” What am I to think and say? ........................................................ 31
} Why are pre-teens so concerned with their image?.................................................... 32
Physical modesty and privacy 身體變化及隱私
} When does physical modesty first appear in children?................................................35
} When should I stop taking baths with my child?...............................................36
} My child likes to be naked; should I allow this?................................................. 37
} Can we be naked around our children?...............39
} What do we do if our child walks in on us having sex? ...................................................39
Homosexuality 同性
} Should I talk to my child about homosexuality?........ 41
} Could my child be, or become homosexual?............. 41
Health and physical development 健康及身體的發展
} My little girl has redness around her vulva. Why is this, and what can I do to prevent it?........49
} My little girl has vaginal discharge. What should I do?..................................................50
} What physical changes are associated with puberty?.......................................................... 51
} When should we talk to girls about menstruation?.............................................. 52
Sex-related behaviour 與性相關的舉動
} How should we react when our child masturbates?................................................. 53
} Are my child’s sexual games normal? If not, what should I do?........................................54
} What attitudes should we adopt with children who behave in a sexually inappropriate manner?.......................................... 55
Communication 溝通
} When and how should we talk to our child about sex?............................................... 59
} My five-year-old never asks about sex. What should we do?...............................................60
Some answers to children’s questions 小孩會問的問題
} What does it mean “to make love”? What are “sexual relations”? ................................. 61
} How are babies made?........................................... 61
} How do Daddy’s seed and Mommy’s egg meet inside her stomach?............................... 63
} How and where do babies come out? .................. 63
} Why do women have breasts?................................ 63
} When will my penis grow?.....................................64
} Why does my penis get bigger?..............................64
Education and prevention 教育及預防
} How should we react to the excessive use of sex in advertising and other media? ................65
} How can I protect my child from sexual abuse?.................................................66
Appendix 附錄
} Normal psychosexual development in children of 0 to 12 years ........................................69
To learn more about child’s sexuality ...................75 (SK)

SAINTS AND SINNERS

Chinese Summary/中文概要：

以英國維多利亞時代的格拉斯哥為故事背景，「聖與罪」一書情節緊湊，巧妙地為我們描述了倫敦東區愛爾蘭移民住地內的貧苦與無助。劇情以三個主人公截然不同的發展線路進行展開 - 一名匪徒、一名神父加之一名娼妓：親兄弟同女子之間的愛恨糾葛 - 作者保羅的處女之作向讀者生動詮釋了維多利亞統治時期下，社會中所充斥著的矛盾與虔誠。
遭到了英國政府的通緝，米克.科斯特洛從愛爾蘭的哥爾韋一路逃亡來到了蘇格蘭的格拉斯哥。一次於涉水途中，他竟巧遇到了自己的親兄弟托馬斯，一名天主教牧師。而聽命於教會的安排，後者現正捲入到愛爾蘭共和主義份子的行動當中。劇情一路發展，兩兄弟的生命中又迎來了另一女人的加入，這個令致他們同時為之傾倒的女孩名叫凱特.瑞丹，她來自多尼歌，但為了謀生卻不得不淪為了一名娼妓。
世態炎涼，三人身處於格拉斯哥街頭之中，但卻不得不為了各自命運而努力作著掙紮，與此同時，人與人之間的忠貞於信賴又一次次地經受著嚴峻的挑戰及考驗。隨著危機步步迫近，虔誠的信仰同炙熱的感情間不斷併發出摩擦的火花，當三人各自不得不面臨人生最終的抉擇之際，故事的劇情遂即亦迎來了它的高潮...(ANDY)

RUBY

Chinese Summary/中文概要：

麦克莱恩一家生活在英国格拉斯哥，成日在铁路上工作。他们辛勤工作，平凡朴实，所以没有人会想到他们家正陷入一场家庭危机。犹如二战的一触即发之势，露比 麦克莱恩也正面临着巨大的个人危机。十七岁的露比带着身孕被强迫嫁给铁路工人格里赖利，后者是个不折不扣的酒鬼。不久后，露比产下一个女孩，而格里赖利为了躲避战争，抛下妻女远走高飞。随着母亲的去世，露比不得不带着女儿离开。
很多年以后，已经退休的露比在海边平静安逸地生活着，直到她偶然发现了家族的惊人秘密，随着那些令她瞪目结舌的逐一暴露在她眼前的谎言，还有她从不知道的阴谋……(RH)

I LOVE YOU, GOODBYE

Chinese Summary/中文概要：

備受歐洲文壇矚目的蘇格蘭經典作家
關於愛情與友誼課題的愛與不愛

探究一切愛情種種的心理治療師
婚姻與性生活皆觸礁的妻子
當愛情遇到挫折的花花公子
一位認為愛情只是一場遊戲的怪咖

在交錯愛情漩渦中的兩女兩男，四人的邂逅展現了男女間的不同愛情觀。經過這番相遇，四人發現都面臨同樣的愛情困擾，他們處於不同年齡、文化、背景而對愛的感受，有著截然不同的表達方式，透過他們的相知相惜，述說一個啟發人心的現代愛情故事。(Ruby & Chris)

WHAT SHOULD I KNOW ABOUT MY CHILD’S SELF-ESTEEM?

Chinese Summary/中文概要：

組成小孩自尊的成分是什麼？
父母的態度會如何影響小孩的自尊發展？
小孩的安全感如何培養？
認識自己到底有多重要？

作者以問與答的方式，提出家長容易疏忽或是有疑問的問題，透過一些實際的觀察，提供簡單易懂的回答。讓我們能更容易了解小孩子在早期成長中，家長所需要做好的心裡準備及必經之路。

本書目錄
Definition and characteristics of self-esteem 自尊的定義
} Is self-esteem important ?........................................... 9
} When and how does self-esteem develop?................. 9
} What is a more precise definition of self-esteem?............................................................ 10
} How do children work towards self-esteem? ........... 11
} Does the quality of children’s relationships with adults affect their self-esteem ?......................... 13
} How do children become aware of their own value? ................................................................ 14
} What are the components of healthy self-esteem?................................................... 15
} What attitudes and skills are possessed by children with a positive self-image? ................... 16
} What parental attitudes have a positive or negative bearing on self-esteem? ........................ 19
Fostering a sense of security and confidence 安全感和信心的培養
} What makes up a sense of security ?......................... 23
} What educational attitudes promote a sense of security ?................................................... 24
} Where do feelings of confidence come from?................................................................ 26
6 Questions/Answers for Parents
} What are the signs that children feel confident and secure? .............................................. 27
} What are the parental attitudes that foster confidence in children?.......................... 28
Fostering self-knowledge 自我認識
} Why is self-knowledge important?............................ 31
} How does self-knowledge develop?.......................... 31
} One-of-a-kind or like everyone else? ...................... 32
} Can adult expectations be harmful? ....................... 33
} What are the signs of good self-knowledge in children?................................................................ 38
} What are the parental attitudes that are most harmful to children’s self-esteem?.................. 39
} What are the parental attitudes that promote self-knowledge in children? ..................... 40
Fostering a sense of belonging 歸屬感
} Is it important to belong to a group and have relationships with others? ............................... 43
} What is meant by “social self-esteem”? .................... 44
} How do children learn socialization skills? ............. 44
} Where do children really learn to develop their social skills? .................................................... 46
} What are the signs of a sense of belonging in children? ............................................................... 47
} What are the parental attitudes that promote a sense of belonging?................................................ 47
What Should I Know about my Child’s Self-Esteem 7
Fostering a sense of competency 培養孩子的勝任能力
} Where do children acquire their knowledge? ..................................................49
} What is meant by “a sense of competency”?.....................................................49
} What steps do children go through to acquire a sense of competency?........................50
} What is the role of motivation?............................. 56
} Does the usefulness of knowledge help motivate children? ............................................... 57
} Independence or overprotection?......................... 57
} What are the signs of a sense of competency in children?............................................................. 58
} What are the parental attitudes that promote a sense of competency?.......................................... 59
} Are parents’ and teachers’ expectations sometimes too extreme?........................................60
Being a competent parent 做個稱職的父母
} What is meant by “a sense of parental competency”?............................................. 63
} What are the qualities of a competent parent?.................................................... 65
} Is self-esteem the solution to every problem? ..................................................... 66
To learn more about child’s self-esteem................. 69 (SK)